Discovering an unexpected pregnancy can understandably lead to feelings of anxiety about disclosing the situation. Remember, you hold complete control over your choices: There is no legal requirement to inform your partner about the pregnancy or the decisions you’re contemplating.

Moreover, you don’t have to face this by yourself. Sierra Pregnancy + Health offers a supportive and confidential environment. We provide free pregnancy services and an opportunity to explore your options with our compassionate team.

Why Not Tell Your Partner?

You may not want to tell your partner for various reasons, and no matter your particular reason, know that your feelings are valid.

A primary worry might be your safety. If you think your partner might react violently to the news, that’s cause for concern. You should contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE. You deserve more and should get out of that situation. If you’re in immediate danger, dial 9-1-1. 

Even in the absence of violence, it’s perfectly acceptable to prioritize your mental well-being, especially if revealing this information could potentially cause more anxiety or emotional distress.

Why Should I Tell My Partner?

You are not required to inform your partner if you’re considering an abortion, and the choice to share this information is yours. However, there are reasons why you might choose to do so.

Your partner may initially feel surprised or anxious, but sharing could lead to emotional and practical support, particularly in a caring relationship.

Imagine if the situation were reversed. Would you want to know? Transparency is often crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship; experiencing this together could strengthen your bond.

An open conversation might also reveal additional options, such as adoption or parenting, if your partner is supportive of the pregnancy.

Even if this discussion doesn’t lead to a concrete decision, remember that the ultimate choice regarding your pregnancy rests with you.

Get A Free Pre-Abortion Consultation

No matter your decision, you don’t have to do this alone. Sierra Pregnancy + Health is here to give you the facts you need to know before going through with an abortion. Although we do not perform or refer for abortions, we can provide information about procedures, side effects to expect, and potential risks. 

You can get free pregnancy services, including pregnancy testing, a limited obstetric ultrasound, and STI testing. These are critical services you’ll want to undergo before receiving an abortion, as they can unlock all your options moving forward.

Contact us to schedule an appointment today. 

*We do not provide extended OB/GYN or prenatal care, fertility testing, abortion services, or referrals for abortion.”


  1. Domestic Violence Support | National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2023, April 27). The Hotline.

Sierra Pregnancy + Health. (2020, April 28). Your options. Sierra Pregnancy and Health.